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So here I am in Costa Rica. It´s been a while since I wrote in this thing, so I figured since I´m here...

Well, after a a really long journey to get to this "tico" beachtown called Samara, I´m starting to get settled in. First of all, I had to spend an evening at the Salt Lake City Airport, where I slept on the ground. That´s a first for me, along with many others I´m assuming. I wish I took a photo of all the people lying along the sides, hovering by the heaters. I then had to stay over night in my arrival city of Liberia, CR because by the time I got there the buses were no longer running. I felt like I was a backpacker again!

Life is definitley not like backpacking. I´m living with a nice family who only speaks Spanish, which can be troublesome at times but at least it forces me to speak a language I don´t know. We (the volunteer) org and I have, plus one more volunteer from S. Carolina have started an ESL camp for some of the local children. It´s... well it´s been interesting to say the least. We´ll see what we can accomplish in a week.

That´s all for now. It´s nice to blog again!

From then until now

It's been a long time. Not too much has happened in the last four months. Sadly, I didn't get very far away from the city during summer. And now it's back to school time for me (which is a positive note)!


Around Town
Jeremy and I relocated to an apartment downtown which is a 15 minute walk to work (or alternatively a 3 minute train ride), so we've been able to do a lot of things around the city. And in case you're wondering, I take the train in the mornings and walk home in the afternoons.

Lilac Festival: Same thing every year. (C+)

Gay Pride Parade & Festival: Got to see some old friends and acquaintances. New parade route and venue (Olympic Plaza), which is much better than the old one. We're definitley making a name for ourselves here in Calgary. I couldn't believe how many people there were since the last time I went maybe three years ago. (B)

Mosaic Festival - mehh... the only choice of food was Ethiopian cuisine, which was ok but more variety and people would've been cool. (D)

Sun & Salsa Festival - First time I've been. Pretty neat concept of trying to find and sample all sorts of salsa with chips. Some spicy, some blah, some fruity! Lots of beer gardens to choose from! Good music and dancing! (A+)

Carrifest: The wet grass at PIP was a damper. I wish more people would've been dancing so I could blended myself in with the crowd. Great music as always though. (B)

Heritage Day Festival: A lot of cultural music and performances on stage at PIP. (B)

Calgary Fringe: I wish I had seen more plays, only got to see two. PS-69 was amazing and hillarious! Attended the film fest at Melrose... horrible choice of venue, too loud to hear anything on screen. I had to complain in the end, hopefully they'll learn better for next time. (A for effort)

Global Fest: Why do I go to these things? Too much hype and money and travel time to see fifteen minutes of fireworks. (C)

Expo Latino: New venue = more people and more excitement! HOT! HOT! HOT! Probably the best one I've attended all year. These Latinos know how to party! (A+)

C-Jazz Festival: Just finished yesterday. I was able to partake in some of the free lunch hour concerts on 8th Ave., and watched about 3 hours yesterday at Olympic Plaza. Some good, some bad. I wish they'd stop mixing rock/blues in with the jazz! I personally prefer vocal jazz over anything else, but it was all good, and all free (well the events I attended were fre)! (A-)

My Bicycle: I bought a $90 bike from Cash Converters back in June so this gets me around. I love it! (A++)


The Surroundings

Red Deer: An outing with my company's department and my first time to golf ever. Too bad it rained like crazy and I only got to do 5 holes. The evening was fun, lots of food and alcohol, its weird to get pissed with your co-workers and go to a hick bar called "Billy Bob's". We got a raincheck for the golfing and will be going again in a few weeks!

Canmore: My friend has access to this great condo equipped with a sauna, steam room, jacuzzi, etc., so hung out there a few times.

Boundary Ranch, Kananaskis: CNRL's employee day, got to white water raft along the Bow starting in Seebe. Pretty exciting!

Kicking Horse: A higher grade of white water rafting, this time with friends and camping.

Geez, that's all the places I've been this summer. Pretty sad. I've got the travel bug like you can't believe! I'm dying to get outta here!

Volunteer work

Calgary Catholic Immigration Society:


On a weekly basis (up until last week), I was a teacher aid for an ESL class of immigrants and refugees. I loved it, and hope to teach ESL at some point in my life. My career path as a social worker once I'm done school is to work with immigrants and refugees, or maybe foreign aid or international development. Something like that. I learned just as much from the students as they did from me. I loved listening to their stories and getting to know them. I'll miss them.

On my last day we coincidently went to the Calgary tower and had a little picnic overlooking the city. What a great way to end my time with them.

Get this! One of the students is from Goa, India. I briefly met him when I was there back in 2003. Not kidding. He used to do party promotions on the beaches and thus used to hand out a lot of flyers to the tourists along the shore. He moved to Canada over a year ago and we just happened to end up in the same classroom!

Drop-in Centre:
I only went twice as a food server. It's not easy work to dish out 1500 plates of food! It's crazy how many people you see in that place, it's so sad. I actually saw this guy that I used to see all the time in Boyztown. I wonder if the drugs overtook his life?

Breast Cancer:
I briefly volunteered again with the "Weekend to End Breast Cancer". They actually contacted me in May and offered me a job with them based on my work ethic from the previous year at their head office, but I had to decline. However, I went to Currie Barracks on the first day of the event and helped set up all the tents. I love watching this empty field turn into this huge campground into a matter of hours!

I'm currently enrolled in the "CIBC Run for the cure" so if anyone feels inclined to pledge me, please do so! Even $5 would be muchly appreciated! CLICK HERE

Okay, now that I've asked for your money, I've gotta run!!!

esoteric ecstacy

Embrace me.
Embrace me with words so soft
With lyrics so deep

Engulf my soul with swiffs of smoothness
Touch it.
Grasp it and don’t let go

I feel the energy
The power within your song
It enthralls and ravishes my insides

Your words embrace me
So tight.
So hard and deep

I am lifted
Lifted high above
Climax!

And you release me
Eager.
Eager for more enlightenment

I open my eyes
Nothing.
There are no hands upon me
Not a being in sight

Yet my heart pounds
My soul aches.
I search for you

I yearn for that esoteric and
Rich feeling within my insides
I want to grasp it, hold it
Make it me.

I search for you
Your voice
Your box
Your chords

unretired
afflicted
desperate

Embrace me once again
Call upon me
Serenade me.
Grace me

Learning Race - A Response

While reading Dalton Conley's Universal Freckle, I related to several of his ideas. As I age, mature and interact more and more with the society to which I'm connected with, I begin to realize how much of a minority I truly am. For starters, if I were in the author's classroom and asked to describe four of five attributes about myself, I would generally start off by calling myself a gay, Filipino-Canadian male. I suppose this is the lens that dominantly influences my life. Of course, it hasn't always been like this.

I agree with Dalton Conley when he says that "Race as we adults know it is something that has to be taught to us by parents, teachers and society more generally" (31). This reminded me of a story from when I was a child. My aunt was telling my mom how younger cousin Michael was talking with his classmates and they said "I'm white, what are you?" Michael, who thought of himself to be just like his friends, replied "I'm white too." As his friends laughed at him, he quickly learned that he was not white. At that point, my aunt figured it was time to do some explaining. He went from being completely innocent and equal, and was taught that he is something "different".

Another concept that Conley brings up is the fact that ethnicity can be chosen, but race is a master status that cannot be concealed (37). This is something that became clear to me while I spent ten months backpacking through parts of Asia. Each country that I went through the locals would shout out at me, guessing which country I came from. "Koni-chi-wa!", "You are China man?" and "Hello Korea!" are only some of the comments that I would receive. As well, they would often speak to me in their native language and when I would tell them that I didn't speak their language they'd ask where I'm from. When I'd say "Canada", this look of confusion embraced their face. "But, you are same as me…" they'd reply as they pointed to their brown skin. I'd generally respond by saying, "Yes, because my parents were born in the Philippines." This would generally create more confusion, probably because half of time they didn't know anything about the Philippines, or perhaps they generally associate Canadians with being a nation of white people. The point is, I cannot escape the color of my skin. No matter where I go, I will always be an Asian man.

On the other hand, it wasn't hard for me to figure out that I could change my ethnicity to my advantage. I met this first generation Korean-American (Mike) who would receive the same comments from the locals. As we were walking down a street, we inevitably got stopped and asked what we were. As usual, I tried to explain my situation which caused the Lao man to stop and contemplate. He then looked at Mike who quickly responded "I'm Japanese." The man from Laos, satisfied, smiled and quickly went on his way. From that point on, if I chose to, I would be able to "pass" as a local or another ethnicity, given the different situations. For example, in Cambodia, since I was able to speak a little Khmer, there were a couple of times when I received a cheaper price at the markets than the obvious white-skinned tourists.

Dalton Conley also states that "it is acceptable for whites to appropriate African-American culture, but "it is unacceptable if the situation is reversed (28). In comparison, I find that there are many people who are discriminatory to Asian immigrants, yet will borrow from their culture. This concept is something that bothers me and I see it in our society quite frequently. They feel that these immigrants are inferior because they are not proficient at English and do not know our culture's norms. Yet, you will often find the exact same people sitting in a Japanese/Thai/Chinese restaurant exclaiming how they love ethnic food! And sometimes as they sit, they will remark at the slow service and/or the odd business practices. At this point I will confess that I have done this myself to a certain degree and it is how I know that it is done. I now realize what an ethnocentric train of thought it is! These people don't realize that these immigrants (and possible refugees) are actually humans as well. They have packed up their whole life to perhaps try and escape an impoverished country, earn some money and send it home to their remaining family who could not afford or qualify to migrate. All the while, these struggling immigrants are trying to learn a completely new lifestyle, not to mention a whole new language. You would think that people would be more accepting and helpful to these individuals, but instead they are the ones that create the obstacles.

It's funny how my perspective has indeed changed over the years. As children, my siblings and I used to make fun at my parents because they would always point out other Filipinos they'd see passing by. "What does it matter if they're Filipino? Oh look, there's a stop a sign, there's a tree" are the comment's we'd snicker, as if seeing a fellow Filipino was as trivial as seeing an everyday object. However, now that I've grown, I will often do the same thing, as well as point out other gays and lesbians that I see in public, and I realize that it’s a way to comfort myself, to have a sense of solidarity, a way to say "Hey, I'm not alone in this world."

Spreading Ashes and Hugging Photographs

Hooray, classes are over, I've got four, hopefully easy, finals to write and then summer! I'll be moving into an apartment with Jeremy in May. Right downtown, a 10 minute walk to work, so it looks like it'll be an exciting and relaxing summer for us. Happy Easter Everyone...

Ten years ago, Vince, an old childhood friend, had a brother commit suicide. It was done in the garage with the car running, Ryan’s suicide that is. There was no note and like with most deaths, no explanation.

In catholic-Filipino culture, which is what my friend and I are, prayers take place for nine days in a row after the death of a loved one. In these nine days, with the funeral and memorial service included, I witnessed and experienced many things. Since then, I have seen and practiced these things myself from time to time. These “things” of which I speak shall be described from here on.

I. As I was driving to the prayers at Vince’s house one evening, I was grief-stricken and thinking about Ryan. I began to speak aloud as if he were present with me in the car, asking him to give me a signal so I would know that he is better off wherever he may be. As I did this, the radio was quietly playing Whitney Houston’s I Believe in You and Me. Then, unexpectedly it became quite loud as if the volume had been cranked to high. The numbers on the clock illuminated itself much more than usual to a bright green! Within the two seconds of this phenomenon, Whitney Houston, at the top of her lungs sang the lyrics, “I believe in miracles!” I was astonished. Afterwards, my clock no longer displayed the time and the volume returned to normal. I later discovered that I had merely blown a fuse.

II. One evening at the funeral parlor, Vince, alone in the chapel, stood over his dead brother’s body and began speaking to it. I do not know what words were spoken because I was peering in through the doorway. Vince took off his old, torn, and dirty baseball cap that he had owned and cherished for years, he looked at it one last time and then placed it by the body’s side. It will stay there forever.

III. The day of Ryan’s burial I sat and watched his uncle stroke the body’s hair while he sobbed and cried out repeatedly, “Ryan… Ryan… Ryan”.

IV. A couple of years ago, I had met Melanie, a backpacker I encountered while traveling through India. She kept a small canister of her stepfather Gary’s ashes within her rucksack. It was her intention to spread the ashes on the earth, in front of beautiful locations throughout Asia. Melanie, unlike myself, did not believe in a god, or a heaven, or really had any concept of life after death. In fact, she had no idea what had happened to her stepfather once he died. It was an honor to be with her three of the five times that she practiced her ritual. Once she would open the canister she would begin speaking to the black, gritty ashes, as if the ashes were Gary himself. She would go on to explain to the black dust that “this is where you’ll be for the rest of your days, in front of the (Himalayan mountains, Taj Mahal, Ganges river, Great Wall of China, Angkor Wat).” Then, as she would spread the ashes, she would tear up, say her goodbyes and wish him well.

V. Every November first is a national holiday called “All Saints Day” in the Philippines. This day consists of all Filipinos throughout the country going to the cemetery to visit with their loved ones who have passed away. Not only will they bring themselves, but they will bring sleeping bags, tents, candles, playing cards, chairs, bamboo mats to sit on, and food, lots of food that is cooked the previous day, and bowls, plates and cutlery. Their “visit” will last close to twenty-four hours, consisting of prayers, celebrations, talking to the headstone with a candle lit by its side, and just everyday conversation with the other relatives whom have all gathered. To the outsider, it would appear as though they are just camping out at the cemetery and speaking to cement.

VI. My grandmother passed away two years and six days ago from today. Also, February 10, 2006 would have been her eighty-eighth birthday. In recognition of that day, I purchased her a birthday gift; some flowers, and I placed them by her picture inside my house. As I looked at the picture I began speaking to it, this piece of colored paper, entrapped within glass and a wooden frame. “Happy birthday Lola” I said, “I miss and love you. I can’t believe how long it’s been.” I then went on to pick up the picture frame and hugged it, hoping that it would return my hug and provide me with warmth, as grandmothers do. Tears began to fall from my eyes and saliva from my mouth.

I will never know if Ryan communicated with me that evening inside my car, as I reached out to him through thought and voice. I do not know if Ryan will wear Vince’s hat in heaven, or wherever he might be right now. And, I do not know what function his uncle had performed as he stroked Ryan’s hair and called out his name.
Is Melanie’s stepfather now only the gritty ashes which are embedded at five different sites throughout Asia, staring at great landmarks? Why would Melanie speak to black dust in such an intimate fashion? As well, what is the point of so many Filipinos crowding around a cemetery plot for hours upon hours, talking to a cement headstone while having a picnic?

I realize that my grandmother was not able to smell the flowers I bought for her birthday, nor was she able to wrap her arms around me like she so fondly used to when I was young. So what is the point in performing such odd acts to dead, inanimate objects? I do not think that we truly believe we are speaking to the actual person, nor does their soul possess their lifeless body, photograph, ashes or headstone. However, we are creating meaning for ourselves. It is a way to comfort our own emotions, our own heart which still beats. There is no other way for us to communicate with a being we once laughed, loved, and shared with, so we continue to do so in our own unique ways. We make up our own explanations to the mysteries of death and believe them to be true.

I choose to believe that Ryan did indeed send me a signal that evening when the fuse had blown in my car while I spoke to him. Furthermore, when I hugged a colored photograph of my grandmother on her would-be birthday, I cried because I felt her warmth.

The Not So Disgusting Way to See The World

It's not that I don't have time to write anymore, it's just that all my effort is directed at my studies. I've decided to 'publish' some of my essays on the net. I have finally finished my English writing course via correspondence. It only took 7 months. Here's the first essay I wrote for it, back in October. Feel free to critique, that is if you actually read it.




“Didn’t you wear that yesterday?” This is an embarrassing question that backpackers must often face while traveling the world. Yes, they do get to experience parts of the globe that the average vacationer may never get to see; in fact, backpacking is one of the most rewarding full-time occupations that can pay off with beautiful scenery, great foreign friends, exotic foods, spiritual fulfillment and extraordinary anecdotes. On the other hand, its consequences can include dangerous environments, stressful planning, communication barriers, feelings of unsettlement, living out of a small luggage, and of course keeping a tight budget. There are a variety of techniques that a backpacker can put into effect while trying to see the world on a budget and with limited space. More specifically, the techniques that will be presented here pertain to your clothing and how they can be handled. Points that can be taken into consideration are; the amount of clothes at your disposal, where and how they will be cleaned, and once they’re clean, how they will dry.

Before venturing off, travellers are often drilled by guidebooks and friends to “pack light”, and in reality this means bringing less clothes. One way to reduce the amount of clothing you bring, yet increase the amount of clothing you have available, is to wear articles two, four, or even six times before washing them. There are a few ways to get away with this and not feel absolutely disgusting. For example, underwear is normally only worn once before washing; however, wearing them inside-out for a second day doubles the quantity of available underwear. Furthermore, wearing a pair of trousers or shorts a few different times before washing won’t kill anyone, especially if they are hung up before going to bed and aired out for the next day’s activities. Shirts, on the other hand, all depend on the type of climate that you’re in and your susceptibility to sweating and/or producing body odours. In a tropical climate it’s obvious that the heat will make anyone hot and sweaty, but if you are in an area where the weather is cooler, then perhaps body odours and perspiration may not emerge at all. In this second situation, it might be best to do the same procedure as with your shorts and trousers. The main point here is to wear your clothes repeatedly until you can actually justify washing them.

This now leads to the topic of washing, and it should be noted that there are different options for having clothes cleaned, such as laundromats, drycleaners, or a laundry service that may be available to wash, dry, iron and fold clothes for you. This all sounds wonderfully simple and convenient; however, when backpackers have that tight budget to keep it isn’t always feasible. Generally, the majority of travellers save their dollars, yen, pesos, etc., by hand washing their clothes at their hostel. It can be quite time consuming to do, but can pay off in the long-run. If you do choose this route, keep in mind that some accommodations encourage self washing and will even provide buckets or large sinks to utilize, but on the other hand, some places exploit the fact that laundry is a basic necessity and prohibit hand washing. Often, they remove their sinks’ rubber drain plugs to reinforce this rule and will post a sign quoting their laundry service prices.

There are a couple of ways to work around this if you’re feeling daring. The first choice is to carry around your own generic drain stop that can fit a variety of sinks or simply use a scrunched up plastic grocery bag to clog the drain. Secondly, instead of using a sink or a bucket at all, some travellers will bring a few articles of clothing with them into the shower and accomplish two tasks at once. Using shampoo or body soap to wash your clothes can eliminate packing detergent in your luggage. Some find this option to be the most logical, especially when they’re being devious and going against the hostel’s rules of conduct.

Although this last option may seem to be the most logical, there is also the component of drying your clothes which should probably be considered. Surely, you can wash your clothes on a daily basis and keep on top of your dirty situation, but how and where will the clothes be dried? There will probably be a conventional drying machine nearby, but again this might be an unnecessary expense, especially if you’re only drying a few items. If you’re at a place that actually promotes the do-it-yourself washing, then most likely there will be clothes lines and clothes pins outside for your convenience. However, if washing and drying is a forbidden act, then you may want to keep a roll of twine with you to tie up in your bedroom to hang your clothes on, but you must also consider how long will it take for the clothes to dry, for this may not be the best option if you are on a strict itinerary. Perhaps using a drying machine may sometimes be the wisest choice, because if you only have eight hours until your next flight or bus departure, you probably won’t want to pack away any wet clothes that could become mouldy. Some travellers will actually take their wet clothes with them on their journey and hang-dry them from their seats, armrests, baggage cabins or just about anywhere that seems probable. If you don’t have the guts to be this bold, then maybe it would be best to save all of your laundry for designated days where you hand wash all of your clothes and then fork out the money to pay for a drying machine. In some cases this may be well justified in your eyes, either way it’s your choice to make.

Whatever decisions you do make while venturing through the globe, remember that there are a number of options that can help you not only save room in your backpack but also save you valuable money. Whether it is wearing your clothes multiple times, such as your underwear inside-out, washing your sweat-stained shirt in the shower, or sprawling your lingerie out to dry in a bus, it can almost be guaranteed that the end result of your choices will be an ingredient in your comical tales upon arriving home.

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